I recently read an article by Devan McGuinness for Babble.com entitled, “New Study Says Choosing A Favorite Child Negatively Impacts the Whole Family,” and was totally baffled. I wasn’t baffled by the study – I believe wholeheartedly that a parent favoring one child over the others can affect a family negatively. No, what I was baffled by was the idea that any parent would choose a “favorite” child.
Honestly, how can any parent who loves their children choose a favorite one? I know it happens – believe it or not I have seen it happen among my friends. That’s how I know that the studies are true. Not only does choosing a favorite affect the other children, but it’s hard on the entire family. The child who is the “favorite” is of course under constant pressure to continue meeting the parents’ expectations, while the least “favorites” are left wondering why they don’t measure up.
The parents suffer as well, although that doesn’t bother me very much. If you choose a favorite child then you deserve to suffer. I’m not just talking about birth parents either. If you choose to blend a family, then every child, stepchild or otherwise, needs to be loved and treated equally. What are your thoughts on the subject?